Through all of my researching and experimenting with so-called healthy lifestyles I have come to the conclusion that if any diet is to be had, it should be to reduce stress, not my waistline. If I leave it unchecked, it’ll continue to undo much of anything good that healthy eating and living has promised me.
But we’re in the here and now. We’ve learned from the past (and left the mullets and sonar dish bangs to die as they should have).
What are some helpful things we can do to be more selfish, you know, in a good way?
Focus on your breath. In. Out.
Just start at home before bed at night. Do a few sun salutations, some downward dogs, and whatever else you can remember off the top of your head. No need to sign up to a class (if that feels like a barrier), just find a time and do it. You don’t even have to be good at it or do it for that long. It’ll still help.
Be consistent. And consistently forgive yourself for not being consistent. Look at yourself in the mirror and say “hey girl (or boy), you’re doing alright.” Winky face and pistol hands. Jazz hands, if you want to switch it up a bit.
Find a healthy comfort food/drink.
For me, it’s smoothies. Hands down. I typically go for something with cocoa powder in it. This girl likes chocolate. And mint. Usually together.
If things get really tense, just go ahead and scream into a pillow. I’m not going to lie, I’ve done it once or twice. It’s pretty great. Alternatively, if you drive alone, roll up your windows and then scream at the top of your lungs. Pay attention to the road, though. It’s surprisingly freeing. I’m sure I’m sounding like a crazed lunatic, but I’m not. Just a mother. Try it.
I would want to add that you should try and find time to do something just for you – take pottery class, go rock climbing, read a damn book in the tub. But, really, my goal is to help you though the load you already have, whilst trying to find a balance to make room for that extra something for you whenever you are ready. Sometimes, you have to roll with the crazies before you can shift gears. Call these six steps, then, some precursors to proper selfishness. I have hope that I will get to that awesome mountaintop of selfish pleasures – like having a shower without having to decipher what child #3 is yelling at me from the other side of the door. And I wish the most excellent selfishnesses (it’s a thing) for you too.
For other stress or anxiety management tips check out this post on Elephant Journal, that, I kid you not, just now made it’s way down my Facebook feed. Annnnd, I just found out April is Stress Awareness Month. How on the ball am I?
Until next time ….